I don’t have a sister, but I’ve always wanted one. I’ve always been a little jealous of my friends when they talk about how close they are to their sisters. Someone who knows them better than anybody, someone who they can call up at any time for no reason, someone who is always there, someone who knows everything.

Some days I wish that Anakha had a sister. While her and Ty have good days and can be very close, it’s still not the same as a bond with a sister. She’s asked for a sister even. But we’re done having kids, despite the moments of baby fever I’ve been having, we’re done.

She had a sister for over a year. A sort of adopted sister while we were living up north. A little girl named Naomi, who was a few years older than Anakha, who lived at our house from the time we got home from work until we had to send her home for bed. And most weekends too.

Naomi, Anakha, & Ty at the Sugar Rush

My heart aches when I think of Naomi, wondering where she is and what she’s doing. I would have done anything to bring her home with me, to take her out of the north with us. Her father did the best he could for her and her many siblings as a single father working strange hours. But in my opinion she was better off with us.

She grew on me and Craig. We took her with us when we went to the store, to the races, to the playground. She was like a third child (this was before Lukie). I adored her and how good she was with Anakha and Ty. And her manners were amazing. She taught my kids to bring their plates over to the counter when they were done eating. She helped them through arguments, and told me when they were getting in too much trouble. But most of all, she was a sister to Anakha. Another girl in the house that Anakha could confide in, do makeup with, play barbies with.

I remember we would get home from work, and as we were pulling into the driveway, Naomi would pop out from behind the shed. She waited there for us to get home, she didn’t really have anywhere else to go. The first few times she came over she was very leery of Craig, especially when he played with Anakha and Ty. She would stand back and watch him play with amazement. You could see the longing in her eyes when I would give Anakha hugs and kisses, and I’d have to give her a hug too.

She was always welcome with open arms into our house, and still would be. I just wish she lived closer.

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29 Responses to Sisters

  1. Dorothy Penny says:

    I often think of Naomi. Do Hannah know where she is? Anakha and Ty loved her so much. This is a beautiful pic of them. You guys spent a lot of time at the Sugar Shack lol.

    • Andrea says:

      She was in Alex’s school last year, but this year I think she’s gone on to the high school, so I’m not sure if they see her anymore. And yes we spent a lot of time there, where else could we go??? LOL

  2. Shell says:

    Aw, what a wonderful friend! Too bad you don’t still live close.
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  3. Sperk* says:

    The time Naomi had with your family was probably very impactful to her–a gift–and time that she will never forget.
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  4. What a sweet story. I hope she’s okay now. I bet she misses you, and her life has not been the same.

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  5. Sounds like you were an amazing mom to that little girl. I hope she and your daughter are able to keep in touch. Maybe they will still have a sister-like bond when they are older.

    I had two brothers growing up and used to pray for a sister. Though being the only girl of the family has had advantages too.
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  6. Gloria says:

    I have to agree about sisters. you may have your differences and argue ,fight from time to time, but when things go wrong in your life sisters will be there for you everyday. I thank God every day for my sisters, they are my closest friends and know they will always be there for me. I have to remember to show them how much they are appreacated.

    • Andrea says:

      That’s sweet Gloria! Now if only I could figure out how to ensure baby #4 was a girl, there might be a chance. But I highly doubt Craig will go along with it!

  7. Leighann says:

    It’s so sweet that you cared for her the way you did.
    And very sad that you couldn’t take her in the way you wanted.
    There should be more people who care for children like you do.
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  8. Ado says:

    Okay wow – what a touching post. Honestly it just grabbed my heart out of my chest for that little girl, how you mothered her. I remember in my childhood a very small hand full of people and families who impacted me forever – and you know you impacted that little girl forever and gave her a template for what a loving family is. I wish you could know how she is doing now. Who knows? Maybe one day she’ll find you on Facebook and you will get to hear how you and your sweet family impacted her.
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  9. Katie E says:

    I bet you do miss her! I bet she really treasured that time with her family. We had a similar friend who used to live across the street – she was between my two girls in age – and she spent so much time at our house and went everywhere with us. Her dad is an unexpectedly single parent who just didn’t know what to do with her so much of the time. We never see her anymore because they moved, and it was so weird initially because she really was almost like a third child for us.
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  10. Jackie says:

    Having a sister I know exactly what you mean. There really is no relationship quite like it. My heart hurts as you wrote of Naomi. I hope wherever she is, she is in a good place, living a happy life.
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  11. I have two boys and while they will (I hope) learn to love that brotherly relationship, especially when they’re older, I doubt that it can be as wonderful a bond as the relationship I have with my sister. I love my brother too–I consider him a dear dear friend–but sisters…that’s a root that runs deep. You gave Naomi a real gift–that year will matter for her, no matter where she goes or what she does.
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  12. I can feel your love for this little girl – I so wish for her, your daughter and you that she lived nearer. Sisters ARE the best friends a girl could ask for.
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  13. Jamie says:

    That must be heard for you and for your daughter. I hope there gets to be a visit at least.
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  14. Shannon from mynewfavoriteday says:

    Awww, I want to adopt Naomi and in some ways have families like you in my own past that saved me in so many ways. Whereever she is, you are not far from her thoughts! Just lovely and heart breaking at the same time.
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  15. January says:

    I always wanted a sister too. My heart aches for that little girl that was a part of your family….it sounds like despite her home life she had a good head on her shoulders. That will serve her well. I do hope that you can all get in touch once again though. Sweet story.
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  16. Melanie says:

    Keep the connection alive between those two and they will always have that bond.

    I, myself, have 4 sisters. They are awesome! Now I am a mama of 4 boys…I don’t understand them…AT ALL!

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