Pour Your Heart Out: Not A Fair Mom

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Today’s topic was about being a fair Mom. I wanted to write about this because it really hit home. We have people in our family who think that to be “fair” it means that when one child gets $5, the other child needs to get $5. And that’s fine. Whatever works for you.

But in that sense, we are not fair to our kids. I feel much like the author in that we don’t always do the same for each kid. Activities are the perfect example. We spend a lot of money for hockey for Ty. A lot. But we don’t spend as much money on Anakha, or Luke. Luke is probably a little bit different, given his age, but even the big kids at his age were in more activities. Now, in my defense, we did indeed try out Kindermusik for Luke. Yeah, he really didn’t like it! And we do finally have him put in HockeyTots for the fall, which I think he’ll love.

But Anakha gets left out. She gets dragged to the arena with her DS or latest book and rarely complains. She has tried out many activities, so many activities, but just hasn’t found that *one* that she loves. Gymnastics is definitely high on the list, but even that was a fight to get her to a few times last year. She’s a homebody. She likes being home and doing her own thing. But we’ve tried. We’ve tried putting her in just about everything, and she doesn’t enjoy it.

So no, we’re not fair in the amount of money we spend on the kids. But it’s not because we favour one over the other. It’s just that we’re doing what’s best for each individual child. And I’m okay with that, even if others aren’t.

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3 Responses to Pour Your Heart Out: Not A Fair Mom

  1. Shell says:

    I totally agree with you! It would be really hard to keep everything completely equal, even moneywise.

    Thanks for joining in!

  2. Pamela says:

    I agree!

  3. Rick Labelle says:

    I really enjoyed this post because it’s honest and truthful.

    We have two boys and we spend more on our oldest. Fortunately (or unfortunately) our youngest was born in the same month as our oldest and has received hand-me-down sporting goods and clothing.

    Thanks for the post.


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