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Today’s topic was about being a fair Mom. I wanted to write about this because it really hit home. We have people in our family who think that to be “fair” it means that when one child gets $5, the other child needs to get $5. And that’s fine. Whatever works for you.
But in that sense, we are not fair to our kids. I feel much like the author in that we don’t always do the same for each kid. Activities are the perfect example. We spend a lot of money for hockey for Ty. A lot. But we don’t spend as much money on Anakha, or Luke. Luke is probably a little bit different, given his age, but even the big kids at his age were in more activities. Now, in my defense, we did indeed try out Kindermusik for Luke. Yeah, he really didn’t like it! And we do finally have him put in HockeyTots for the fall, which I think he’ll love.
But Anakha gets left out. She gets dragged to the arena with her DS or latest book and rarely complains. She has tried out many activities, so many activities, but just hasn’t found that *one* that she loves. Gymnastics is definitely high on the list, but even that was a fight to get her to a few times last year. She’s a homebody. She likes being home and doing her own thing. But we’ve tried. We’ve tried putting her in just about everything, and she doesn’t enjoy it.
So no, we’re not fair in the amount of money we spend on the kids. But it’s not because we favour one over the other. It’s just that we’re doing what’s best for each individual child. And I’m okay with that, even if others aren’t.